I haven't written in quite some time here. I just managed to come across the site. I thought maybe I could say what I need to here and feel some kind of comfort. I have this friend of mine who knows I have abuse in my past. Part of this problem deals with OCD on my friend's part in a way. It's really hard to explain why it is that it happens. But the last time I saw my friend, there is a habit that reminds me of some of the abuse I encountered years ago. I mentioned it to my friend and of course it was followed by sorries and apologies. I see this behavior a lot in my friend and this time I felt I needed to say something. I felt awful for saying it because it is something that cannot be helped. It doesn't bother me all the time, just sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I explained why I felt the way I did so it wasn't like I just said something to be mean. I just feel bad because it's nothing that can be helped. So what now? Was I wrong or right? Any advice?

Thanks.

SnowAngel

Well if it was something seriously triggering you, I think it's right. And it's nice that your friend understands and is supporting you.

I think its right too. Its not like you said stop or dont do it . You said it bothers you..... think how many little things you say that to and how many times.. its fine and its well said good luck